Is it just me or does everyone have "good looks" as a requirement while on the hunt for a spouse? Some may consider that to be the ONLY requirement. What is it about looks? Is the rest of our body a prisoner of the eyes and what pleases it?
Believe it or not there are people out there that may even reject someone because they have a big nose, height, or my personal favorite skin color is too light/dark. How can you judge someone based on that? These are things that are beyond people's control, they have been chosen and set by the Almighty (SWT). On that note, it is a creation of Allah swt, and who are we to criticize Allah (swt)'s creation? Is a short person going to be rejected from Jannah due to their height? Everyone looks for certain qualities but those qualities should concentrate on things that a person has control over i.e manners, education, goals and in some cases weight.
Did I just say weight? why yes I did....for SOME people. Let me explain, it is my own personal observation that over weight men tend to want slim women. Ok now some overweight men have serious issues where they cannot lose their weight due to their body type, metabolism and so on and so forth. But then there are those guys that are simply lazy, and sit around and eat mama's or aunt jemima's food all day. How can you expect a stick thin girl to be attracted to you? She's probably avoiding Aunt Jemima, Sara Lee and Lady Godiva just to keep herself in shape, and it ain't for pillsbury dough boy. Your weight will display how you take care of yourself, how often you work out, your diet and your lifestyle. Our bodies are an amanah to Allah swt, taking care of them is obligatory upon us.
Fine I understand you need to have some sort of attraction, but attraction comes in many forms. Some females are attracted to big sporty muscular guys or clean cut metro dude or a guy who is a book worm or or or an American born Muslim practicing his deen (wink wink). Attraction can be defined by hobbies, work, life style, and of course...looks. In my honest opinion, personality is what shapes a person's outward appearance. Do you know what I mean? If your a guy then you probably don't....and you may learn things the hard way! Basically in a nutshell, you meet someone pleasing to the eye, you have a convo with them and turns out their not that great and then realize they don't even look that good, on the other hand you find someone whose average, talk to them and they make you laugh, and they're interesting and you walk away with your heart set on that person and their smile and cute little eyes, and you tell yourself "she/he is the one"
Finally, we must remember our ultimate purpose in this life, which is to please Allah swt and attain Jannah. Your spouse can have a full package based on what is most important to you, and those who please and love Allah swt the most will ultimately be the most beautiful people. Its ok to be attracted to the person, but attraction comes in many forms and having that perfect nose and super model figure is not the only way to be beautiful.
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